http://www.a-singles.com/articles/ en Sat, 07 Feb 8252 13:28:55 GMT A-singles 60 http://www.a-singles.com/articles/lasting-love.html Thu, 14 Sep 2006 23:18:48 GMT And many are able to attract partners who are suitable for them, physically and mentally. But for many people, their relationships do not last much more than 3 months! This is a shocking truth of the dating world. Why does this happen? Why can’t we make it last? I'll give you three reasons:
*1. Treating a Relationship as a Transaction You cannot be calculative when it comes to love. Counting who did what for whom leads to the death of generosity. Theoretically speaking, there's a hidden universal law guiding human relations, which is, "If you stop giving, you stop getting." And if that's the way the law is, them we must not stop giving or else the relationship will die. So if you are calculative, you will count to a point where you...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/lasting-love.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/perfection-romance.html Thu, 14 Sep 2006 23:12:15 GMT
Some pitfalls women get into can come from searching for a particular type of man, such as one who:

1. HAS POTENTIAL. Then the woman tried to mold him into something that he's not. He may comply for a while, but eventually he'll revert to his true personality and behavior pattern. The woman then becomes disillusioned and leaves because he doesn't have the "potential" she thought.

2. HAS LOTS OF COMPASSION. Then when the man...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/perfection-romance.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/keep-newyears-resolutions.html Thu, 29 Sep 2005 08:25:53 GMT
The problem with resolutions is that most people never keep theirs. And it's no surprise. Most of us resolve to do big things -- lose weight, get into a relationship, improve a relationship, get a better job, improve business, get healthy, save money, etc. These are not easy things, and cannot be accomplished simply because we resolve to accomplish them. It's not that big things can't be accomplished. It's just that it takes something, and often lots of something, to move us in the direction...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/keep-newyears-resolutions.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/nice-story.html Thu, 29 Sep 2005 08:22:52 GMT
Later, I was stopped by another trooper. "What have I done?" I asked.

"Nothing," the trooper said, smiling. "I heard you were passing out great chocolate chip cookies."

Wow! I suppose it would be awful to say one should travel with donuts, so that if you were pulled over you might have a coffee break.

But this cute little story actually makes a good point. Being nice really is the best way to go and, as the story suggests, it can be fun.

It goes back to that old saying be nice all...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/nice-story.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/catch-release.html Thu, 29 Sep 2005 06:54:53 GMT
"Please release me... / let me go.. / 'cause you don't love me.. anymore";
"..unchain my heart", you get the idea.

Now if these were just songs we enjoyed and it went no further, then fine. But unfortunately they either reflect or reinforce the idea that in order to break up with someone we need their cooperation, or even permission in some way. What troubles me about this is hearing women say how unhappy they are in a relationship yet, when I ask them, "Have you...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/catch-release.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/jealousy.html Thu, 29 Sep 2005 04:20:55 GMT
The first thing we must look at is the element of 'freewill choice'. What makes 'actual' love such a special event in our lives is that it is given to us as the result of a freewill choice by another person. I make the distinction here between 'actual' love and 'compulsory' love, which is not real love at all. When love is compulsory it is given...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/jealousy.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/ask-right.html Thu, 29 Sep 2005 03:44:49 GMT
Many people are frustrated in all sorts of relationships, seemingly unable to get what they need or want. Sometimes not getting what you want happens because you do not make a request. Sometimes many requests later, you may still find yourself not having what you want.

This happens in all types of relationships, including intimate and dating relationships, family, friendships and work relationships. Because this newsletter is about intimate relationships, that is where the article will focus. However, if you are having a problem getting what you want in any other relationship, the information below will be useful as well.

There...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/ask-right.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/from-partner.html Thu, 29 Sep 2005 02:02:46 GMT
Perhaps you haven't worked up the courage to actually make the request you want to make. Or perhaps you've made several requests, but still find your needs unmet. If you're frustrated because you seem unable to get what you want and what you ask for, you're not alone.

This happens in all types of relationships, including intimate and dating relationships, family, friendships and work relationships. I'll focus on intimate relationships in this article; however, if you are having a problem getting what you want in any relationship, the information below will be useful as well.

There are ten tricks to getting what you want in any relationship. These tricks are not...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/from-partner.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/romantic-myths.html Wed, 21 Sep 2005 04:49:19 GMT Have you been caught in the web?

Caught in the web of what, you ask. Caught in the web of the fairy tale?

Whether you're a guy or a girl, we have all been caught in the web of this indulgent genre at one time or another.

No, I'm not a cynic. I'm as romantic as the next girl, and being dramatically inclined, maybe even more so. But what I'm trying to say is, maybe it's time for us to honestly determine if we are putting impossible expectations on those we love by chasing romantic myths.

Most women have done it at one time or another.

"Honey, how come you never ____________." You fill in the blank. It can be "bring me roses", "write me poems", "cook me dinner by candlelight" or a myriad of other notions we have been brainwashed into...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/romantic-myths.html http://www.a-singles.com/articles/flags-dating-relationships.html Wed, 21 Sep 2005 02:43:06 GMT
Here are some " Red Flags " to watch out for in a new partner.

1). He makes decisions about where to go with little or no input from you.

2). He belittles your opinion when the two of you are alone and may call you names.

3). He makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others and may talk about you as if you...]]> http://www.a-singles.com/articles/flags-dating-relationships.html